Raise your hand if you’re an introvert. My arm is raised highly, being supported by my other arm, just so everyone sees how much of an introvert I truly am. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been an introvert.
If you look up the word introvert on vocabulary.com you will find the following “An introvert generally prefers solitary activities to interacting with large groups of people. If you would rather work through your feelings in your diary than have a conversation, than you are an introvert. It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. Introverts sometimes avoid large groups of people, feeling more energized by time alone.
My husband is 100% the opposite. He is a total extrovert, and is energized by interactions with others. He’s the guy at the social gatherings who can talk for hours, while I slowly sip my drink, racking my brain for something to add to the conversation. All the while thinking about how nice it’s going to be when I get to go home, slip into my pajamas, and get into bed.
Being an introvert has proved difficult at times. There are so many events that I should attend as a blogger, so many mommy groups, and other social gatherings that would really be beneficial to go to. But as soon as I start thinking about those events, and the forced conversations I will most likely have at them, I immediately think of something else I have to get done at home. “There’s a huge stack of laundry on the floor I have to do,” or “I probably should stay home and catch up on some emails”, or “It sounds so nice to order a pizza, and binge on some Netflix”. I tend to make these excuses for myself so that I feel okay staying home.
I’ve always had a small group of friends growing up. I didn’t understand how someone could join a sorority, or have massive friend groups. Just the thought of those things mentally exhaust me. I’ve always favored having a couple of really close friends, over having a ton of “obligation” friends. The friends you almost feel obligated to keep with, even though you literally have no time to do so. It totally makes you feel like a terrible person, but how can one person really keep up with hundreds of friends? It’s literally impossible, and you usually feel like a failure if you aren’t doing a good job at your friend duties.
Sometimes when I get out of a social function, and I’m back in my car I find myself exhaling really deeply. It’s like I can finally breathe once I’m alone, or just back with my close friend, or family. I literally feel exhausted; as if the social gathering took so much out of me that I need to mentally check out for the next few hours.
After reading this some of you might think I’m a total weirdo, but I know there are some of you that will totally relate. I wanted to share some of the things I do to help me cope with being an introvert, so maybe they will help you as well.
Realize It’s Okay – It’s totally okay to be an introvert. After talking to more people about the topic, I found out that so many others are introverts as well. Once you open up to others about it, you will realize you are totally not alone here!
Limit Your Big Social Gatherings– I’m not saying to totally hide under a rock for the rest of your life, but I find that I’m much happier when I limit my big social gatherings. Be easy on yourself, and don’t commit to something, that you know you are going to want to cancel later. I think it’s healthy to attend these gatherings every so often, but don’t force a ton of them on yourself.
Cater To Your “Me Time”– As a mom and wife, I find it hard to carve in my “me time”. Sometimes my “me time” is literally taking a bath and watching a cheesy movie. Other times it’s grabbing dinner with a couple of close friends. Make sure you take care of yourself, and give yourself the time you need to refresh and recharge every so often.
Be Okay Saying No– It’s hard to turn down invites, I know, but when our life is already packed full, and we’re introverts, we just need to be okay with saying no. You can’t put pressure on yourself or feel bad for saying no. I’m a people pleaser, so this can be hard for me, but I’m working on it!
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If you’re an introvert, I hope this post resonated with you! Pretty please leave your tips in the comments below for others who may be reading. We can all learn from each other! Thanks so much for stopping by today!