Thoughts on Baby Number 2

baby #2Let me preface this post by saying that I’m not pregnant. That being said, we do want to add to our family somewhat soon, or do we?? Ha! Before we had Noah I was pretty set on having my little ones be two years apart, now I find myself thinking 3 years apart might be nice?

I’ve been talking to other moms who have little ones around the same age as Noah, and it seems like we are all dragging our feet a little bit. I mean, things are somewhat normal again. We are all sleeping, we have a routine, we actually attend social activities, and we feel like we are able to dive back into our work. Do we want to shake it all up again?

Then we get on our phones and look through newborn photos of our first born. Our hearts are melting for that sweet newborn smell, and those tiny little fingers that first wrap around ours. We miss when they would just fall asleep while eating, and when they would fit so well cradled in our arms.

We then think about being pregnant again. Being pregnant for the first time was exciting. It was new. We didn’t really know what we were getting ourselves into. We attended the birthing classes, read all of the books, rubbed our bellies with coconut oil, and cried tears of joy the first time we heard the heartbeat or felt those little kicks.

Being pregnant for the second time doesn’t seem to be quite as appealing. If we thought pregnancy was tough the first time, we think “How in the world will I take care of a toddler during morning sickness?”. We imagine carrying our heavy toddler through the store with our giant belly…. ohh the back pain. We imagine our toddler accidentally kicking our belly. We wonder how we will keep up with our toddler during the exhausting third trimester. It’s all a tad less glamorous than the first time around.

But, we somehow forget about all of the sleepless nights, the morning sickness, and the potential exhaustion that will come from being pregnant with a toddler. We think about adding to our family, and we think about the good times we had with our brothers and sisters growing up. We think about the family vacations, the SUV or van that will end up in the driveway, the bigger house & back yard that we will eventually need to store all of these toys.

We think of the memories that will be created, and we eventually decide… let’s do this all over again.

12 Comments

  1. Julie on July 8, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    Well I thought I was going to be saying ‘Congrats!’ 🙂 My first two are 21 months apart and then came surprise #3 4 years later. Now that my first two are older (18 and 16), it’s fun to see the relationship they have being so close in age. But yes, those first couple of years with two tiny ones was hard! You have such a beautiful family Lee Anne! 🙂

  2. Karin Rambo on July 8, 2016 at 3:03 pm

    I’m right there with you! My daughter is 18 months old and originally, I was thinking that we would start trying when she was a year, but THAT didn’t happen haha! We’ll see…

  3. Mariah on July 8, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    Oh gosh, I’ve not even had a child and this sounds bad. I mean I know the little ones are worth it in the end, but moms do not get enough credit!

  4. Amy on July 11, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    Haha, I totally get it. We found out that a surprise baby #2 was on his or her way before our firstborn had even turned one. But, I will say, that I’ve hardly noticed this pregnancy flying by because of how busy our first keeps me! I’m all of a sudden looking the third trimester right in the face wondering how I’m already 2/3 of the way through this pregnancy!!

    • leeannefoltz@gmail.com on July 11, 2016 at 12:31 pm

      Wow, I have a feeling the 2nd pregnancy will go by so fast as well!

  5. Lauren B. on July 11, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    I LOVE that you prefaced this post, too funny! Also LOVE the family photo so cute & good luck with whatever y’all decide!
    xx, Lauren {www.rosesandrainboots.com}

  6. linda spiker on July 11, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    I had six in ten years…wait…or don’t…everyone should be in tune with their limits!

  7. Brianna Picard on July 11, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    Amen. My munchkin is only 9 months and already I’m wondering when baby two will come along.

  8. Anna on July 11, 2016 at 9:10 pm

    I have not had any children myself, but I feel like I have been through this with a countless number of girlfriends who have toyed with the same thoughts – you’re not alone! 🙂 My brother and I are 4 years apart and it was just enough time for us to have never been in the same ‘place’ or stage at the same time. We we’re in middle school together, high school or even college. I would have loved to have been at least one year closer. XO

    Anna || A Lily Love Affair

  9. Angelle Marix on July 12, 2016 at 10:50 am

    It’s definitely harder, but your mommy skills and talents kick in big time. We had 4 kids and thought the same thing each time that we were contemplating trying again. You will be amazed at how much that you can juggle even with morning sickness.

    xoxo,
    Angelle
    http://www.dashingdarlin.com

  10. Logan Can on July 12, 2016 at 1:54 pm

    Girlfriend. My first two are 18 months apart and my third on is on the way…again, they will be 18 months apart. That’s 3 in 3 years. Sigh. The second two were huge surprises, so we were a bit thrown into it. I was (and am) nervous, but it has honestly been so much fun having them close together. They are playing so well together now. The first few months were tough as we were adjusting, but from what I hear, it is tough no matter when you have the second. Just do what’s best for you and your family! It will work out for the best! 🙂

  11. Tamara Goyette on July 13, 2016 at 6:34 am

    Oh those sleepless nights! I would take them over potty training though any day! We are already at the point of talking about having a third.

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