Let me preface this post by saying that I’m not pregnant. That being said, we do want to add to our family somewhat soon, or do we?? Ha! Before we had Noah I was pretty set on having my little ones be two years apart, now I find myself thinking 3 years apart might be nice?
I’ve been talking to other moms who have little ones around the same age as Noah, and it seems like we are all dragging our feet a little bit. I mean, things are somewhat normal again. We are all sleeping, we have a routine, we actually attend social activities, and we feel like we are able to dive back into our work. Do we want to shake it all up again?
Then we get on our phones and look through newborn photos of our first born. Our hearts are melting for that sweet newborn smell, and those tiny little fingers that first wrap around ours. We miss when they would just fall asleep while eating, and when they would fit so well cradled in our arms.
We then think about being pregnant again. Being pregnant for the first time was exciting. It was new. We didn’t really know what we were getting ourselves into. We attended the birthing classes, read all of the books, rubbed our bellies with coconut oil, and cried tears of joy the first time we heard the heartbeat or felt those little kicks.
Being pregnant for the second time doesn’t seem to be quite as appealing. If we thought pregnancy was tough the first time, we think “How in the world will I take care of a toddler during morning sickness?”. We imagine carrying our heavy toddler through the store with our giant belly…. ohh the back pain. We imagine our toddler accidentally kicking our belly. We wonder how we will keep up with our toddler during the exhausting third trimester. It’s all a tad less glamorous than the first time around.
But, we somehow forget about all of the sleepless nights, the morning sickness, and the potential exhaustion that will come from being pregnant with a toddler. We think about adding to our family, and we think about the good times we had with our brothers and sisters growing up. We think about the family vacations, the SUV or van that will end up in the driveway, the bigger house & back yard that we will eventually need to store all of these toys.
We think of the memories that will be created, and we eventually decide… let’s do this all over again.