Happy Monday friends! This post is somewhat different than what I usually share on here, but I felt inspired to share it anyway. We attended a wedding recently, and it got me thinking a lot about marriage, and everything that goes into sustaining a happy marriage. Dylan and I got lucky, but I also think that there are other things that go into having a happy marriage besides luck. Today I’m going to share my top three tips with you. Let me preface this by saying I’m not a marriage expert, this is just what works for us, and maybe something I share will resonate, help, or inspire one of you.
1. Encourage One Another
This is a huge one for Dylan and I. We are both very supportive of one another and make sure to encourage one another on a daily basis. Everyone needs encouragement, especially from their significant other. Maybe your husband is training for a marathon, starting a business, or going through a difficult time. Encouraging and supporting each other along each of your personal journey’s is huge for happiness. Dylan and I are both entrepreneurs. We both work for ourselves, and it’s not always easy. I don’t think I would be where I am today without Dylan’s constant support & encouragement. We both chose our careers out of sheer passion, and not for monetary goals. We could easily be in traditional steady careers, but we wouldn’t be happy, and honestly we would feel slightly trapped. We both value careers where there is no ceiling. We like to be in charge of our own success, and it’s awesome that we both share this mindset. We know that we are in this journey together, but also make sure to encourage each other’s personal journey along the way.
2. Show Your Love
Everyone shows love differently, but showing it often is super important. For Dylan and I it’s usually about the small things. Sometimes when our day is really busy, I like to make Dylan lunch and surprise him by bringing it to him in his office. I know he’s really busy, and making him lunch during a busy day is a way I like to show my love. Recently we celebrated our 6 year wedding anniversary. I got home from the coffee shop the day before our anniversary and Dylan had made a huge display out of post it notes on our wall in our office. On each post it note he wrote down a reason why he loved me. My heart melted. It made me feel so good that he took time out of his extremely busy day while also watching Noah to make something so special for me.
3. Don’t Change Each Other
Let your spouse be exactly who they are. Sure there are going to be things that annoy you about each other’s personality, but guess what? Those little things are probably what attracted you to them in the first place. We are happiest when we are ourselves, and we need to be able to be our complete selves with our significant other.
Well I’m not sure if that was just a huge ramble or not, but I hope it will inspire one of you. Now I think I’ll be a sweetheart and “Show My Love” by making Dylan a coffee, ha! Have any other tips? Feel free to leave them in the comments for everyone else to read!
Thanks so much for stopping by, and have an amazing week!